The hymen’s a myth and virginity’s a construct. It’s time to let both go πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯

The move, a further amendment to the Health and Care Bill, comes hot on the heels of another change to the bill introduced in November 2021 and intended to make “virginity testing” in England and Wales a criminal offense.

Given the harms described by victims of both practices, these UK legislative changes are welcome, but if anything, they should be seen as a beginning and not an end. It is not just testing and repair that is harmful. The very concept of “virginity” is. And it’s one societal construct that continues to have extraordinary power in so-called conservative and liberal cultures alike.
While not universally the case, in a gender-binary, heteronormative world in which a girl’s value is intrinsically less than that of a boy, her virginity becomes a commodity she trades — or that is traded for her — in exchange for better societal prospects. Most obviously, this means improving the chances of a “good marriage,” but not exclusively. Virginity has also, for example, been a condition for academic progression, as with the ill-conceived proposal for “maiden bursaries” in South Africa: a scheme that offered university scholarships to young women on the condition they remained virgins.
The hymen — and its structural integrity — is the cornerstone of purity cultures, yet as Irish journalist Lynn Enright explains in an extract from her book Vagina: A Re-Education, “it’s pretty obvious that there is a disconnect between the imagined hymen and the real, biological hymen … The hymen is not a tautly pulled skin protecting a girl’s vagina. It is a ‘thin fold of mucous membrane situated at the orifice of the vagina’.”
Despite the fact that the hymen as it is conceived is more mythical than real, the desire to preserve or prove one’s virginity has also created pressure for young women to have anal sex in the first instance and penetrative sex in the second.

Like most other harmful patriarchal norms, the idea of virginity does boys no favors either. Hyper-masculinity — the pressure to be a man’s man — presents male virginity as a failure, while at the same time female virginity is to be prized.

What’s more, virginity, as it’s widely understood, provides a limited definition of what sex itself is, since losing one’s virginity requires a penis to penetrate a vagina. Aside from the fact that sex between queer people often falls outside this definition, research has also shown that such a narrow understanding of sex puts adolescents at risk of sexual abuse that they won’t recognize as such — because it might not have involved penile-vaginal intercourse.

So, the point is this: virginity is simply a phase, little different from having baby teeth. For most people, this phase will be one they transition from. However, when virginity is seen as some kind of identity — with the capacity to illicit shame or to control — young women will find themselves exposed to violence either at the hand of their peers or of their own families.

Still, any move to criminalize both virginity testing and “repair” is a welcome one. As the World Health Organization said unequivocally: “The harmful practice of virginity testing is a social, cultural and political issue, and its elimination will require a comprehensive societal response.”

That comprehensive societal response is arguably not going to be possible without first letting go of the significance attached to the concept of virginity itself.

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The hymen’s a myth and virginity’s a construct. It’s time to let both go

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